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The Design of Marriage

By Barry Grider

With the recent Supreme Court decision allowing same gender marriage throughout all fifty states, it is imperative that Bible believing Christians and those who uphold biblical values and morality stand in unison in opposition to the high court’s ruling, which threw the Bible and the United States Constitution in the trash can. God established the marriage relationship in the beginning of time and He alone can define what marriage is. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). Consider how God designed the marriage relationship. What was its purpose?

When a person marries he/she should have some idea of “what he is getting himself into.” Marriage is the oldest institution ordained by God, and therefore serves a very worthwhile purpose. Marriage is wonderful because it provides abiding companionship. “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him a help meet for him” (Gen. 2:18). Though there are a few who would rather remain unmarried, most people will finally choose a mate. Life does not seem to be complete or fulfilled until this moment comes. Therefore, Solomon wrote, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord” (Prov. 18:22).

Certainly, when a man finds someone with whom he can rejoice during happy moments, find comfort during difficult hours, or share his most intimate feelings, he is a blessed man. Again Solomon wrote, “rejoice with the wife of thy youth” (Prov. 5:18).

Marriage is also designed to bring about the addition of children into the world. Though not as important as companionship, it is still part of God’s divine plan. Even the physical bodies of the male and female show God’s design for procreation. Speaking to man, God said, “Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth” (Gen. 1:28). Children are the precious product of marriage. They were never to be brought into the world outside of this holy union. These little ones help make a home complete and bring much reward and satisfaction (cf. Psalm 127:35). It is therefore the purpose of parents to rear their children according to God’s standard. “And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4).

God ordained marriage also to promote an atmosphere of Christianity. The home is where the most spirituality can be gained, because it is the place where we spend so much time. It is therefore imperative that faithful Christians marry faithful Christians. One should understand that it does not take two, but rather three, to build a happy home. Christ must be included. It should be the desire of every Christian couple to help each other go to heaven. “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life: that your prayers be not hindered” (1Pet. 3:7).

Those who are married or those about to be married should keep in mind that it is God who brings two people together in this holy estate and therefore marriage serves a distinct and divine purpose. It was created and crafted according to God’s own design and, therefore, no man can improve what God has done.

Barry preaches for the Forest Hill church of Christ in Memphis, TN



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